So I need to get something off my chest and I hope what I am about to say can help some people. Right now, we have an epidemic of flaky people. They’re everywhere. Cancelling plans last minute, not responding to texts/calls and maybe even not showing up at all. Sometimes I am a flake. I get it. Things happen and people have to cancel. But over the last couple days it has happened to me 4 TIMES BY DIFFERENT PEOPLE!!!! I’m at my breaking point.
A “flake” is described as ‘someone who generally makes plans with you, promises to do things, but can never seem to follow through with plans.’ When you confront them about their behaviour they will either deny it, get defensive, or simply run away. It breaks my heart to realize this definition describes people in my social circle.
I think part of the problem is we are losing our basic, respectful, communication skills because of cell phones. Since it’s so easy to text & call nowadays, it’s equally easy to NOT text or call. We never make time to connect with people without a screen anymore. Honestly it shocks me that people actually think that always canceling plans last minute and not responding to texts is OK!?!? Personally, I find it extremely immature, mean, and completely disrespectful. It’s a miracle if people actually show up on time, or even at all.
The more I think about it, the more it actually crushes my spirit. I have lots of friends with whom I’d love to catch up with. However, it’s basically IMPOSSIBLE to make plans with them that they ACTUALLY follow through with.
Then, after awhile I just give up. The constant disappointment becomes too exhausting, especially when you don’t feel effort being reciprocated. So my solution is…. -Call More, Text Less (Therefore Less miscommunications)
-No longer will I cancel plans last minute with someone unless I physically cannot move.
-No longer will I let a friend cancel plans last minute more than 3 times.
And my phone will be off all day Sunday’s for a screen time break.
Please comment if you have an opinion on this topic. I’d love to hear your thoughts.